How high-achievers can use therapy to protect their relationships, mental health, and performance Therapy isn’t just for crisis. It’s a strategic asset There’s a cultural myth that therapy is only for people in crisis, after a breakdown, a divorce, or a suspension from work. But for super successful people, senior executives, founders, and public […]
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Understanding regret and moving forward After a separation or divorce, it’s natural to look back and wonder: Did I settle for the wrong person? It’s one of the most common and painful questions people ask themselves once the practicalities have been handled and the dust begins to settle. When the home becomes quiet and the
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How to cope and co-parent when you’re still in the same house Living together while separating can feel like emotional limbo — you’re no longer a couple, yet not fully apart. Many people stay under one roof after separation because of finances, housing constraints or children, but it’s rarely easy. Tension, grief and
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Why desire dies when you’re exhausted You finally crawl into bed, longing for rest. But even as your head hits the pillow, your mind won’t switch off. Did you send that email? Remember to buy milk? Who’s taking the kids to their appointments tomorrow? Your partner reaches for you, but your brain is already
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The psychology, the pros and cons, and how to be honest about sex and what it means for your relationship Faking orgasms is more common than most people realise. Many women, and some men too, admit to doing it at some point in their lives. It’s one of those topics that can bring a mix
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When a marriage or relationship ends, many parents hope to move smoothly into a co-parenting arrangement, working together to support their children after divorce. For some families, this is possible. For others, especially where there is ongoing conflict or hurt, it can feel impossible. Trying to co-parent in a traditional way when emotions are high
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Separation and divorce are some of the hardest experiences adults can go through. Even when the relationship has clearly run its course, the ending can bring grief, anger, guilt, and fear about what lies ahead. For parents, there is the added pressure of worrying about the children. Many of the parents I meet in therapy
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Separation is one of the hardest transitions a couple can face. It brings grief, anger, and fear about the future. When children are involved, the stakes feel even higher. In this Couples in Crisis story, I want to explore what happens when the pain of separation collides with the task of co-parenting — and what
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Starting therapy can feel like a big step. If you are reading this, you have already done something important: you are considering giving yourself the space to pause, reflect and get support. Many people feel uncertain about what to expect from therapy or whether it will “work.” That is completely normal. Is therapy confidential? One
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Many couples go through periods of reduced or absent sexual activity. For some, this is temporary, linked to stress, illness, or life transitions. For others, it becomes a long-term silence in the bedroom that leaves both partners confused, hurt, or disconnected. As a psychosexual and couples’ therapist, I often see couples who fear that a
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