Understanding sexual dreams, emotional meaning and therapeutic interpretation… Dreams have a habit of throwing up the most random plot twists, but nothing jolts you awake quite like suddenly finding yourself in bed with your ex. One minute you’re asleep, the next you’re staring at the ceiling thinking absolutely not, brain, we are not doing this […]
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Why desire dies when you’re exhausted You finally crawl into bed, longing for rest. But even as your head hits the pillow, your mind won’t switch off. Did you send that email? Remember to buy milk? Who’s taking the kids to their appointments tomorrow? Your partner reaches for you, but your brain is already
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The psychology, the pros and cons, and how to be honest about sex and what it means for your relationship Faking orgasms is more common than most people realise. Many women, and some men too, admit to doing it at some point in their lives. It’s one of those topics that can bring a mix
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Starting therapy can feel like a big step. If you are reading this, you have already done something important: you are considering giving yourself the space to pause, reflect and get support. Many people feel uncertain about what to expect from therapy or whether it will “work.” That is completely normal. Is therapy confidential? One
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Many couples go through periods of reduced or absent sexual activity. For some, this is temporary, linked to stress, illness, or life transitions. For others, it becomes a long-term silence in the bedroom that leaves both partners confused, hurt, or disconnected. As a psychosexual and couples’ therapist, I often see couples who fear that a
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This post is part of Couples in Crisis, a blog series drawing on real-life stories from the therapy room. Each post explores common relationship issues, from infidelity to fertility loss, through a therapeutic lens. All names and identifying details have been changed to protect confidentiality. Whether you’re in crisis, at a crossroads, or simply curious
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Couples in Crisis is a blog series exploring the real-life dilemmas that bring people into couples therapy. Based on clinical experience (with all client details changed for confidentiality), each post looks beneath the surface of common relationship struggles—like infidelity, fertility challenges, communication breakdowns, or monogamy—and offers a compassionate, therapeutic lens to help couples feel less
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Vaginismus is a condition that affects many women, yet it often remains hidden in silence. If you’re experiencing pain, discomfort, or difficulty during penetration, whether that’s during sex, inserting a tampon, or having a pelvic exam, you may be dealing with vaginismus. You’re not alone, and there is help available. In this blog, we’ll explore
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Couples in Crisis is a mini-series I want to share, exploring the real-life dilemmas that bring people into couples therapy. Drawing on my clinical experience but disguising my clients such that I protect the confidentiality and ethics of our work, each post delves into a common relational challenge, from infidelity to fertility struggles, communication breakdowns
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How your attachment style affects your sex life – and what to do about it When I first qualified as a therapist, the organisation where I trained invited me to join the teaching staff. I loved explaining ideas and theory to students and having recently graduated myself, I could speak their language. I took a
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