Many couples go through periods of reduced or absent sexual activity. For some, this is temporary, linked to stress, illness, or life transitions. For others, it becomes a long-term silence in the bedroom that leaves both partners confused, hurt, or disconnected. As a psychosexual and couples’ therapist, I often see couples who fear that a […]
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This post is part of Couples in Crisis, a blog series drawing on real-life stories from the therapy room. Each post explores common relationship issues, from infidelity to fertility loss, through a therapeutic lens. All names and identifying details have been changed to protect confidentiality. Whether you’re in crisis, at a crossroads, or simply curious
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Couples in Crisis is a blog series exploring the real-life dilemmas that bring people into couples therapy. Based on clinical experience (with all client details changed for confidentiality), each post looks beneath the surface of common relationship struggles—like infidelity, fertility challenges, communication breakdowns, or monogamy—and offers a compassionate, therapeutic lens to help couples feel less
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Vaginismus is a condition that affects many women, yet it often remains hidden in silence. If you’re experiencing pain, discomfort, or difficulty during penetration, whether that’s during sex, inserting a tampon, or having a pelvic exam, you may be dealing with vaginismus. You’re not alone, and there is help available. In this blog, we’ll explore
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Couples in Crisis is a mini-series I want to share, exploring the real-life dilemmas that bring people into couples therapy. Drawing on my clinical experience but disguising my clients such that I protect the confidentiality and ethics of our work, each post delves into a common relational challenge, from infidelity to fertility struggles, communication breakdowns
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How your attachment style affects your sex life – and what to do about it When I first qualified as a therapist, the organisation where I trained invited me to join the teaching staff. I loved explaining ideas and theory to students and having recently graduated myself, I could speak their language. I took a
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Ethical Non-Monogamy (ENM): Exploring Alternative Relationship Styles As a relationship and sexual therapist based in London, I’ve seen a growing interest in alternative relationship models. More people are questioning the one-size-fits-all approach to love and seeking fulfilling connections beyond traditional monogamy. One such approach gaining traction is Ethical Non-Monogamy (ENM). What Is Ethical Non-Monogamy (ENM)?
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Low Sexual Desire in Men: Understanding and Overcoming the Struggle Sexual desire fluctuates throughout life, yet when a man loses interest in sex, it can be an isolating and confusing experience for both him and his partner. As a relationship and sexual therapist based in London, I see many couples facing this issue—yet few feel
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Struggling with painful sex? You don’t have to endure it – Help is available If your sex life feels more like agony than ecstasy, it’s time to take action. Pain during sex is more common than you might think, but that doesn’t mean you have to simply accept it. There are effective treatments and support
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Is Technology Ruining Your Relationship and Sex Life? In a world dominated by smartphones, social media, and 24/7 connectivity, many of us are so focused on our screens that we’re neglecting the person right in front of us. While technology is designed to bring people together, it can also create distance in our most intimate
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