Why desire dies when you’re exhausted You finally crawl into bed, longing for rest. But even as your head hits the pillow, your mind won’t switch off. Did you send that email? Remember to buy milk? Who’s taking the kids to their appointments tomorrow? Your partner reaches for you, but your brain is already […]
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The psychology, the pros and cons, and how to be honest about sex and what it means for your relationship Faking orgasms is more common than most people realise. Many women, and some men too, admit to doing it at some point in their lives. It’s one of those topics that can bring a mix
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When a marriage or relationship ends, many parents hope to move smoothly into a co-parenting arrangement, working together to support their children after divorce. For some families, this is possible. For others, especially where there is ongoing conflict or hurt, it can feel impossible. Trying to co-parent in a traditional way when emotions are high
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Separation and divorce are some of the hardest experiences adults can go through. Even when the relationship has clearly run its course, the ending can bring grief, anger, guilt, and fear about what lies ahead. For parents, there is the added pressure of worrying about the children. Many of the parents I meet in therapy
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Separation is one of the hardest transitions a couple can face. It brings grief, anger, and fear about the future. When children are involved, the stakes feel even higher. In this Couples in Crisis story, I want to explore what happens when the pain of separation collides with the task of co-parenting — and what
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Starting therapy can feel like a big step. If you are reading this, you have already done something important: you are considering giving yourself the space to pause, reflect and get support. Many people feel uncertain about what to expect from therapy or whether it will “work.” That is completely normal. Is therapy confidential? One
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Many couples go through periods of reduced or absent sexual activity. For some, this is temporary, linked to stress, illness, or life transitions. For others, it becomes a long-term silence in the bedroom that leaves both partners confused, hurt, or disconnected. As a psychosexual and couples’ therapist, I often see couples who fear that a
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Money is one of the most common sources of tension in relationships. It’s not just about pounds and pence. It often symbolises power, security, freedom, and care. And inevitably, when couples hide or lie about money, it can erode trust almost as much as a sexual affair. As a couples psychotherapist, I often hear stories
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Arguments are a normal part of any relationship. In fact, couples who never disagree may simply be avoiding important conversations. But there is a crucial difference between healthy conflict and unhealthy conflict, and destructive contempt. When couples proudly tell me they never argue, I worry. People should be able to argue, they need to. But
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Why summer isn’t always easy for couples The hotel’s been paid for, the children are really looking forward to it. Maybe some time away is what you two need to get you back on track. After all, summer holidays are supposed to be about relaxation, fun, and romance and you could definitely do with some
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