Couples in Crisis is a blog series exploring the real-life dilemmas that bring people into couples therapy. Based on clinical experience (with all client details changed for confidentiality), each post looks beneath the surface of common relationship struggles—like infidelity, fertility challenges, communication breakdowns, or monogamy—and offers a compassionate, therapeutic lens to help couples feel less […]
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Vaginismus is a condition that affects many women, yet it often remains hidden in silence. If you’re experiencing pain, discomfort, or difficulty during penetration, whether that’s during sex, inserting a tampon, or having a pelvic exam, you may be dealing with vaginismus. You’re not alone, and there is help available. In this blog, we’ll explore
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When that second baby doesn’t come Navigating fertility grief and secondary infertility in a relationship This post is part of Couples in Crisis, a blog series drawing on real-life scenarios from the therapy room. Each post explores common relationship struggles, from infidelity to fertility loss, offering insight through a therapeutic lens. All names and
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I love you… but I’m not in love with you Emotional ambivalence and the slow fade of connection in long-term relationships This post is part of Couples in Crisis, a blog series drawing on real-life stories from the therapy room. Each post explores common relationship issues — from infidelity to fertility loss — through a
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Couples in Crisis is a mini-series I want to share, exploring the real-life dilemmas that bring people into couples therapy. Drawing on my clinical experience but disguising my clients such that I protect the confidentiality and ethics of our work, each post delves into a common relational challenge, from infidelity to fertility struggles, communication breakdowns
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How your attachment style affects your sex life – and what to do about it When I first qualified as a therapist, the organisation where I trained invited me to join the teaching staff. I loved explaining ideas and theory to students and having recently graduated myself, I could speak their language. I took a
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Why we give and how it affects our relationships Gift-giving is a universal way of expressing love, appreciation, and connection. Whether it’s a birthday, anniversary, or just a thoughtful surprise, gifts carry deep emotional significance. But what happens when giving and receiving presents becomes stressful? Why do some people struggle to pick the right gift,
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Why so many working mums feel overwhelmed and what to do about it… Do you lie awake at 3am running through your to-do list? If you’re a working mother, chances are the answer is yes. It’s not just the school runs or the client emails or the football kits still sitting in the laundry basket—it’s
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Ethical Non-Monogamy (ENM): Exploring Alternative Relationship Styles As a relationship and sexual therapist based in London, I’ve seen a growing interest in alternative relationship models. More people are questioning the one-size-fits-all approach to love and seeking fulfilling connections beyond traditional monogamy. One such approach gaining traction is Ethical Non-Monogamy (ENM). What Is Ethical Non-Monogamy (ENM)?
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Low Sexual Desire in Men: Understanding and Overcoming the Struggle Sexual desire fluctuates throughout life, yet when a man loses interest in sex, it can be an isolating and confusing experience for both him and his partner. As a relationship and sexual therapist based in London, I see many couples facing this issue—yet few feel
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